Sunday, 16 November 2014

Getting Back Up When You're Feeling Down

Let's face it, and to put it nicely, rubbish stuff can happen, maybe leaving us feeling pretty down in the dumps, then regaining positivity just seems a little too much effort. Even if nothing bad is going on, even the strongest and most positive ladies among us can sometimes feel a little discouraged and need a little pick me up.

Usually, when I feel a bit rubbish, it's generally down to stress. When you're stressed and have a lot of different things on your mind, it's easy to crack under that pressure and let it all get to you, and the best way to manage this is to take a step back for a moment. I know that when I'm stressed, whether it be due to schoolwork or just general life, I think it's best to take a break to think about write down all the things that you need to do, and if they're not absolutely vital, leaving them to when you feel more like yourself. That way, you'll have a visual list of what is important at this moment, and usually when you see it in front of you, it isn't so scary and you'll be able to manage it in a calmer way.

Another thing to do when you're a little upset is to make another list (let's hope you have a bit of paper lying around for all this writing!) of all of the good things and people in your life right now, and set it next to the list of stresses - which one is longer and more significant? Usually when I do this, I always have a long list of people and things I'm blessed to have and it really puts things into perspective.

Also, if what is making you feel low are particular people or certain things, the best thing you can do for yourself is to get these out of your lives, how are you supposed to live a happy life with toxins getting you down? If it's people, they don't need to be around you and if possible, try and stay away from those who act negatively upon you. If you're upset about events that have happened or may do, consider one thing - the past is over for a reason and does not define you, forgive yourself. The future is ahead for a reason and you have time to prepare for whatever is ahead, if it's difficult you are clearly strong enough to handle whatever it will bring.

However if this doesn't work, maybe you need to get it all out in a verbal way. Phone your closest friend, have a chat with a close family member and just tell them everything - most of the time when you get super stressed or sad, it's not just due to one thing but many things building up inside at the same time. People who know and love you personally will do anything they can to advise you and help you feel a little better.

Finally, one of the best things you can do when you find yourself feeling a little negative is to balance it out with love, and doing something that makes you happier than anything else. This could be seeing your friends for coffee, doing your favourite sport or hobby, going for out for lunch with your family or even just having some quiet time to read a book and reflect. Whatever it is, make sure it's something that makes you happy, as there's always something for everyone that they love.

Remember, no obstacle is ever too big to overcome and no stress is ever too important that it can't be solved. Take a break from social media for a while, appreciate what is all around you. 

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